parenting gifted children

parenting gifted kids            Life with a gifted child can be intense. There are joys and challenges that are unique to raising gifted children and some of the parenting books that are available often just don’t cut it when it comes to gifted kids! The asynchronous development of these children mean that the experience of raising a gifted child is often like a rollercoaster. Your child may be six years old, but have the maths ability of a ten year old, play chess like an adult, and have a tantrum like a four year  old when a younger sibling wants to borrow his toys! Additionally, the higher a chid’s IQ the more potential there is for an uneven developmental profile.  The challenge for the parents of a gifted child is keeping up with which age their child may be at a given moment! That’s not to say that gifted kids aren’t emotionally mature too, often they also have advanced emotional maturity which may make it hard for them to make friends with children the same age as them. See the page on friendship for more information.

Not only can a gifted child be exhausting due to their curious nature or sensitivities, disciplining them can be extremely challenging. Many of them are like little lawyers, and can spot a flaw in your argument, or remember statements you have previously made which contradict a current attempt at enforcing discipline. Hopefully the resources and videos on this page will be able to offer you some ideas on how to effectively parent your child. Gifted kids will keep you on your toes though, so don’t be surprised if you have to constantly revise your parenting strategies, as what works one week may very well not work the next!

This interview with Vidisha Patel offers some examples of gifted behaviours and provides some helpful suggestions on how to deal with such characteristics. Here you can find tips relating to managing difficult emotions, frustration and anger in gifted children, and SENG provides some great information and strategies on parenting gifted children.

This article suggests ways to deal with emotional intensity in gifted kids, and the Davidson Institute offers some great tips on how to foster cooperation and handle competition in gifted children.

So, how can you tell if your child is emotionally immature or emotionally intense? Lesley Sword helps explain the difference.

A great article looking at life in the asynchronous family.

Often, from a young age gifted children ask questions about spirituality; Stephanie Tolan has written a great article which looks at ways that you can discuss this topic with your child.

Dr James Webb’s presentation looks at eleven issues which relate to parenting a gifted child. And this presentation, which was given by Fiona Smith and Minh Nguyen-Hoan in Perth, Western Australia, outlines what it can be like to parent gifted children, due to their special charcateristics and their asynchronicity.

Finally, if you’ve got some time to spare then there is a free 120 handbook all about giftedness called ‘The Journey’. It covers everything from the early signs of giftedness to career planning. It includes anecdotes from gifted children and their parents and can be found here.

Doreen Woolley looks at disciplining gifted kids.

A short video on the importance of adaptation when parenting, and educating, gifted children.

Gifted children have no greater obligation than any other children to be future leaders or world class geniuses. They should just be given a chance to be themselves; children who might like to classify their collections of baseball cards by the middle initials of the players, or who might like to spend endless afternoon hours in dreamy reading of novels, and to have an education that appreciates and serves these behaviors. – Jane Piirto